by: Strawberry
It can be done if you keep in mind several important issues.
“Breaking up is hard to do” is more than just baby boomer song lyrics – It’s a common reality for many in the dating world. Couples after couples still find that it’s the most awkward moment that they will ever have to encounter. Well if you think it “feels bad” to say “we’re over” think about how the person you are saying that to feels. Many people never really know why someone is breaking up with them and it’s those unanswered questions that have turned many into psychotic stalkers. So read on and learn how you can let go and help heal a broken heart at the same time. Oh and women, I suggest you keep reading love stories. This can help you too.

Well everything is wrong. Feelings have changed. Maybe you found someone else or maybe you realized the person you are dating just isn’t “it”. Either way you have to tell that person. Sure it’s easier to change your phone number, find a new group of friends or fake your own death but it’s not something you would want done to you. Rejection hurts, regardless of how well spoken it may be but telling the person why is better than not returning their phone calls. So be polite and courteous and explain the reason, if you can, as to why you feel the relationship isn’t going to work.

Be polite. I can’t stress that enough. The slightest comment that can be taken as harsh criticism will only lead you to having to deal with this person for months and months on end and their anger. So, if the relationship is moving in a wrong direction or you are no longer attracted to them – tell them. Don’t give them some “I’m in a different place in my life right now” line, it’s retarded and the person will see right through it.

Breaking up, I feel, is easier if you agree on some key issues.

~ Such as, will the friendship remain? It can. There’s no reason for it not to unless the reason you are leaving the person is because they have been physically or mentally or even sexually abusive to you. Is sexually abusive even a reason to leave someone? I mean the person is trying to make sex interesting and you choose to walk out on them? What nerve! Anyway as I was saying, if you had a great friendship before hand then I don’t see what positive outcome you can have by ending it completely.

~ How will we be friends? This is an important one. Set a guideline. Are you going to be best buddies? Just a shoulder to cry on? Just another friend to have a beer with? If you want to keep the friendship you have to decide on what scale to keep it on. Does friendship mean just being civil whenever you see one another or do you want to take it a step up and communicate on a regular basis? Discuss it and if you don’t want any sort of friendship then this would be the time to say it.

~ Will you keep the same friends? Sure, you can still hang with the same group of people if you both choose to and if you don’t – then don’t. But that’s your decision to make either collectively or separately. BUT, whatever you do don’t put your friends in the middle. They didn’t date the person so why should they have to choose which friendship to end because you decided to end a relationship.

~ How long until the significant other comes around? If you choose to keep the friendship then respect it and the fact that you dated this person for whatever amount of time. So before you bring along Mr. Right or Miss. Hottypants to the next get together discuss it. This doesn’t mean ASK! You are no longer attached to your ex so don’t ask “Can I bring … to the club?” instead say “I wanted you to know that I am bringing … to the club.” Let your ex decide whether or not they can deal with seeing you with someone else. As harsh as this may sound, it’s not your problem and your dating activities with your new love should not revolve around your old one.

Well my little heart breaker, now you’ve learned some guidelines for letting that once so wonderful person go BUT what if you’re on the other side of it? How will you handle the rejection? Hmmm, well I think you need a few do’s and don’t yourself. So make sure you come back soon to read them.